Finding out that your child has gotten into trouble for bullying or that he has been victimized by a bully isn’t a great feeling. But worse than that is not knowing how to deal with the situation. In this post, we’ll be taking a closer look at how bullying behavior arises and how you can teach your kids to disarm bullying with kindness.
Why bulying happens
There can be a lot of reasons for bullying behavior. Some bullies have insecurities and pick on others to help gain a sense of superiority and importance. Other kids simply don’t know the difference between right and wrong and end up picking on others based on their religion, race, or size. There are also instances where kids bully because they’re copying what they see at home. Kids that are exposed to unkind and aggressive behavior at home will often treat others in the same way.
How You Can Teach Your Kids Not to Bully Others
Don’t take bullying lightly.
You have to make sure that your child understands the zero-tolerance policy you have against bullying,. And he needs to keep that in mind at home and at school. Make sure you have ground rules in place that have consequences whenever they’re not adhered to. Try to teach your kids about non-violent ways to deal with problems.
Teach them respect and kindness
By teaching your kids about kindness and respect; they’ll learn that it’s wrong to ridicule differences. Instead, they will use empathy with other kids that are different. To make this more prominent, you can try hlping out with a community action group that deals with special needs children. This way, your child is exposed to these scenarios more often.
Work on good behavior –
Whenever your child does a good deed for others, pull out the positive reinforcement since it can be much more effective than negative discipline. Take note when your kids are handling situations like champs, and then be sure to praise them for it.
Lead by example
You’ve heard this countless times, but you really are your kids’ greatest role model, and they’ll learn a lot from you throughout their early years, so be the change you expect to see in them. Instead of focusing and commenting on the negative aspects of people, try to highlight the positives. This way your kids will learn how to look past the obvious pitfalls and seek out the good in people instead.