Parenting teens can be daunting. Since it sneaks up on you sooner than you think, it’s always wise to prepare as best you can. Like when your daughter’s hormones become an issue, you need an immediate plan of action.
Because kids can basically find anything online these days, it creates a communication gap between parents and kids. But although they have better general knowledge than we had back then, they’re still human. They still have needs, and your daughter needs to know about how and why her body has been programmed for reproduction. As her mom, you’re the best person she can talk to about the issue.
What you need to teach about your daughter’s hormones
It’s likely that your daughter wants to know how her body will change. She doesn’t necessarily want to know why, so spare her a lecture on hormones, eggs, sperm and sex until she asks about it. She needs to know when to expect changes and what to do when it happens.
When puberty sets in, there are subtle hormonal, physical and social changes that take place. After she hits puberty, it’ll be another two years before she gets her first period. Tweens are often horrified at the idea of period and having to deal with boys, bras and pimples. You should be prepared to answer all those awkward questions at the most inconvenient of times. Always keep the lines of communication open with honest and straightforward answers.
What to avoid when discussing your daughter’s hormones
- Your tween is self-conscious and super private, so don’t overdo it. Also, never talk about it in front of her friends.
- Don’t try to be “hip” and talk to her like a typical teen.
Top tips when having the talk with your daughter
- Your daughter will ask questions, and this is an opportunity of innocence that you might never have again. Don’t waste it.
- Remember that despite her fragile self-esteem and sensitivity, she can still be extremely bitchy. Her hormones are all over the show, so just grin and bear with it.
- Accept that she will ask her friends for advice, so don’t be upset when it happens.
- Keep in mind that your relationship with your daughter will also change. When you’re no longer her “bestie”, you may feel hurt and even resentful. But it’s important to respect her and never shut her out when she needs a shoulder to cry on after being let down by her friends.