You’re going to be a parent until you die. Even when your kids are all grown up and have kids of their own, you’ll still be a parent. And the need to always be there for your kids is what will ensure that you’ll always be a learning parent. Here are some of the lessons you’ll learn on this amazing journey:
Life lessons of the learning parent
You need to back off and try to trust them when they say they’ve got it
Arguments shouldn’t turn into contests of wills. This is especially true for parents of teens. And when they shut you out or slam the door in your face, it’s in everyone’s best interest to just back off. You’ll get back to the topic later, when you’re calmer and can see the whole situation from a different perspective.This is a life lesson for the learning parent that’ll probably take a decade to set in.
Don’t hold past failures in their face
It’s hard to bite your tongue when you want to remind your kids of why they’re not allowed to do something that blew up in their faces last time. Don’t force them to sit out of a game because they hurt themselves in the same game just last week. Kids will be kids, and even if it takes three tries, they do need to learn from their own mistakes.
Talk TO your kids and not AT them
Choose a good time for communicating, when both of you are in a relaxed frame of mind. Talk about random stuff like the neighbours, a new restaurant, the news, anything. Once you’re okay with discussing random stuff, it becomes easier to discuss serious stuff like moral issues and peer problems.
Eat at least one meal together each day
Sharing a meal on a daily basis can really bring you together as a family. Passing the salt across the table also means you’re passing on some love, especially if you do it with a smile. Plus, it’s something you should really do while your kids are still at home. You’ll miss this when your nest empties out.
Don’t be judgmental about their friends
It’s important to get to know your kid’s friends, and regardless of whether you approve of their appearance, never refer to them in a derogatory way. This is the kind of gateway you need to learn more about who their parents are too, so you have someone to call in times of emergencies.
Always shower them with love
Kids need to see their parents as their safety net, as a place where they can fall back to at any stage of their lives. As their parent, you need to be the secure part of your kid’s life that they can always count on. This will help shape them into responsible and committed adults. Your love will show them that you trust them to make the right decisions. And those include the kind of decisions that affect everyone around them.