If you were raised by hovering parents, you might understand just how annoying it may be. But now that you have your own kids, it’s hard not to always be there for them, watching their every move. But here’s the deal: helicopter parenting can damage your kid’s future, and here’s why:
How helicopter parents harm their kids
1. Your kid needs to learn that he is part of the masses.
You might be raising your kid as the superstar of M.I.P of your household right now. But when he grows up and joins the educational system one day, he’ll be one of the 30+ kids in a class. And one of roughly 300 pupils in his grade. Not even mentioning what happens when they start working eventually.
2. Your kid’s behavior won’t necessarily reflect your parenting style.
Kids are supposed to learn from their mistakes. Unless mom is constantly okaying her kid’s behavior and making excuses for them. Some kids (most of them) do dumb things from time to time. And that doesn’t necessarily mean they have horrible parents, they’re just kids. Helicopter parents try to control the behavior of their kids to an extreme extent because they want others to see a reflection of perfect parenting. When we hover over our kids every second of the day and constantly make excuses for their behavior, we’re accountable and responsible for 100% of their behavior. Which also means that if and when your kid acts out, you’ll be held liable for his action. Which is NOT what you want to teach your kid.
3. Your own life won’t matter anymore
Helicopter parents don’t give their own lives the attention it needs. And even though you might have heard it before, you simply cannot be a good parent if you’re not taking proper care of yourself. Of course, you want your kid to perform well in school and in life as a whole. But pushing them beyond insane boundaries to see them achieve those goals is absurd. Think “Toddlers and Tiaras.” You know it’s not pretty. It’s called toxic parenting, and not only is it harmful to your kids; it’s terrible for you, as an individual as well.
Even though it might feel like it at times, your child is NOT your whole life. You exist as a separate person, beyond the idea of being just a parent. It’s time to let go a little and allow your child the freedom he or she deserves to make their own mistakes and become who they feel like being.