For a lot of folks, having two or more kids is the norm. They challenge moms of only-children, almost expecting them to cave in and sign up for having more kids. But for some families, having just one child really is the right choice.
With that in mind, it’s time we put an end to this bullying. If someone doesn’t want to add another family member to their household mix, it really is none of your business.
Moms of only-children don’t want to hear this:
You will change your mind
Those five little words are also accompanied by a tilt of the head and a condescending smile. Sure, we don’t know EVERYTHING, and loads of people have changed their minds about having more kids. But until you’ve birthed and raised a child, you can’t know for sure that you’ll want to have more kids. Moms of only-children will not be changing their minds, so please stop telling them that they will.
Your child will be lonely
Okay so this one is kind of a guilt trip cue, so please, for the love of all things holy, don’t rub salt into the wounds. While some kids have amazing relationships with their siblings, other families are marred by sibling rivalry. There really isn’t any guarantee that only-children will be happier with siblings in the mix. Plus these kids have friends, cousins, and everyone in-between for companionship. They also have loving parents who have more time, financial resources, and love to give than they’d be able to give if the kid had siblings. It makes perfect sense when you think about it for a second.
Who is going to help your kid take care of you when you’re old?
Let’s get one thing straight: Adults don’t procreate to have more help around when they’re old and grey. Kids shouldn’t have to feel burdened by taking care of their parents, but it also shouldn’t be an excuse for adding another kid to the mix.
All you need now is a boy/girl
No. This is so very, VERY wrong. There’s nothing you get from having a son that you won’t get from having a daughter. Just because a kid is born as a girl or a boy doesn’t mean they’re destined to like playing in the mud or with dolls. Gender stereotyping is sick, and we should teach our kids to pursue anything that interests them, regardless of what sex they are.