What to know before adopting

What to know before adopting

Before adopting, it’s essential to do your homework and get to grips with the process and any complications that might arise. In this article, we’ll be taking a look at some of the key factors to consider for adoption.


Understand THIS before adopting

1. The kid is who matters most. Not you.

The child is the only person in the adoption process that has no say in the matter. And that’s why you need to ensure that the kid receives the best possible outcome. Before adopting, you should know that a child you hope to adopt might not become your child. Always keep your focus on the child’s best interest. This is the single most important thing to remember.


2. Where adoptions are concerned, corruption does exist

Sadly, adoption is just business for some people, and they don’t have the child’s best interest at heart. Some corruption is blatant when kids are put up for adoption without the consent of their parents. But it’s often more subtle, like when a young mother is told she can’t take care of her kids. As a would-be adoptive parent, you have to ensure that you’re entering an ethical adoption process. Do your homework as far as the adoption agency is concerned. Read reviews on Facebook. Ask questions about the first family without agency involvement. Before taking any serious steps, do you best to get behind the truth of the situation.


3. There is always a loss that happens when a child is adopted

As an adoptive parent, you might be overjoyed when the process comes to a close. But for the kid, it’s indicative that he’s losing everything he’s known so far. And children grieve this massive loss. To you, it might look like bad behaviour. But it’s important to be on the lookout for signs of grief so you can give them all the support they need.


4. Education about adoption is necessary

You’ll most likely need to undergo some pre-adoptive education, but you need much more than just the required minimum to succeed. Empower yourself by taking online courses and learning more with the help of videos on sites like Empowered to Connect. Talk to adoptive parents that know what it’s like to parent adoptive kids.


5. Decide how much you can handle in an adoptive placement

You have to make a thousand choices throughout the adoption process. And if you don’t know what you’re able to handle, it won’t serve the child well. Do you have the finances to care for a child that has specific medical needs? Are you prepared to meet the challenges of more than one child if you’re considering adopting siblings? Can you keep an adoptive child from another culture connected to their original culture? These are all things you need to face up to and decide whether or not you’re ready for.

By Seldean Smith

Seldean is a full-time single mom and avid contributor to the Kiddles website. Her hobbies include discovering awesome new places and spaces for kids and writing content that resonates with the hearts of other parents.

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