Moms and their sons don’t always get along, even more so with the onslaught of puberty. To lend you a helping hand, we’ve got the scoop on what teenage boys think and need you to know, Mom!
Teenage boys think along these lines…
Becoming a man is tough
Teenage boys think that being a guy is a tough gig. There’s a lot of expectations and peer pressure from other guys out there.
I need you to recognise my autonomy even when you’re checking it
The teenage years are full of conflict and contradiction, especially when it comes to your son’s social life. On the one hand, he wants you to be aware of his social activities, but he also desperately needs to be able to do his own thing. This means you’ll have to set boundaries but still make it clear that he has a choice in the matter. You can pay for his cellphone and the Wi-Fi and allow him to use it. But those privileges call for some guidelines to be in place, which he needs to follow.
Please ask me for some advice
Obviously, there are some areas in which your teenage son is a bit more of an expert than you are. Find out what those areas are and ask him for his advice. Teens like it when we ask their opinion. It shows that you value their input. By asking for some advice, you’re also opening the door for further communication.
Give me a curfew
Most teens believe that it’s important for their parents to set a curfew. This does seem like a conflict with the desire of teenage boys wanting to be treated like adults, but it’s one of the contradictory aspects of the teen years.
Can we limit the PDA, please?
As a mom, you want to shower your kid with love and affection whenever, wherever. But public displays of affection kind of creep him out, so you should limit it. This is something you have to discuss with your son, enquiring about what’s okay and what’s not as far as PDA goes.
I’ll be ready to leave the nest before you’re willing to let me go
Yes, it might be a bitter pill to swallow, but eventually, your wild, stinky teen will turn into a young man. And that man will be more than ready to leave the nest. Boys tend to be ready to leave the home around the time they turn 17. Moms are only ready to accept this fact of life from around the time their sons turn 18.