When it comes to what you can and can’t say to a working mom, there’s a very fine line. The working mother faces a never-ending balancing act while always being subjected to judgmental input from others. Here’s what NOT to say
Things you shouldn’t say to a working mom
Why won’t your husband let you stay at home?
Men DO NOT dictate the choices women make about their work status. Sadly though, a lot of people still think that’s the way it works. In most cases, the working mom isn’t being forced to work. It’s a mutual decision. Plus, she didn’t ask your opinion, so shut it, Sharon.
You must miss your kids!
This is something that you should not say to a working mom because frankly, it cuts very deep. It’s not easy for them to go back to work after having kids, but it’s what they have to do. It’s a gaping wound that will never close and heal as long as people keep being stupid about this subject.
Are you okay with having other people raise your kids?
This is a question that implies that a working mother doesn’t raise her own kids. Please keep in mind that she already feels guilty enough and doesn’t need you to add salt to her wounds.
But you get so many great perks at work
Yes, she gets quiet lunches, break times, and bathroom visits without an audience, but it’s not all it’s cracked up to be. Having these “perks” comes with a different set of stress and expectations. She has to cram all her household chores in before and after work and over the weekends.
So you ever worry about the effects of daycare?
Moms have enough to worry about without adding in the fear of scarring your kid just because you have to work. Some people imply that kids who go to daycare will become bullies since they spend so little time with their “actual” parents. The working mom has no other choice. Unless you have a million bucks to give her, this is something you shouldn’t say to a working mom.
Your baby probably misses you terribly
No mother wants to be reminded of the fact that she can’t be there for her baby. Yes, her baby misses her terribly and can’t wait for her to pick him up. But you know what would suck more? A single mom not being able to provide for her baby because she doesn’t want to work.