To raise tweens isn’t only challenging; it’s also super fun and can add a whole new dimension to the parenting game. In this article, we’ll be taking a look at some of the most frequently asked questions about raising teens and tweens and answering them with the most practical advice.
FAQ – how to raise tweens
When should kids get phones?
This is a sensitive topic for parents that raise tweens. It’s always best to consider your kid’s personality and maturity before the phone enters the scene. If and when you decide to give them a phone, parental guidance is an absolute must. Phones with limited internet access and restricted messaging features can also help keep younger kids safe.
Should I limit screen time?
Kids can develop sleeping problems and start performing poorly in school if all they do all day is stare at a screen. It’s always advisable to limit screen time, but this isn’t something that all parents approach equally.
When should teens go to bed?
Obviously kids need to get in enough sleep every night, and the same rule applies for parents that raise tweens. According to the experts, teens and tweens need between 8 and 10 hours of sleep per night. If your kid’s alarm goes off at 6.30 am, they need to be asleep by no later than 10:30 p.m.
Should I worry about underage drinking?
South African law states that children under the age of 18 are not permitted to drink alcohol. But underage drinking is a very real thing in SA, and much more prevalent than you think. In fact, one in six teens admitted that they’ve experienced alcohol-induced blackouts. It’s not okay for underage kids to drink, even if it’s sometimes seen as a “safer” alternative than other substances or drugs. Alcohol is just as dangerous, potentially even more than other recreational drugs out there.
I’m raising two kids, is it normal to have a favourite?
Of course it is not politically correct to admit that you favour one of your kids over the other. But your thoughts are not abnormal. In a lot of families, the favourite in the house changes quite regularly. But even that is something that you’ll want to keep for yourself. When kids realise that their parents prefer their siblings over them, it can cause problems in the family dynamic. Not even mentioning the effect it might have on the pre-existing sibling rivalry problem.