The last born children of families tend to be free-spirited. Mostly because their parents are so chilled out from having gone through the show a couple of times before the last baby was born. They tend to be fun-loving, uncomplicated, manipulative, outgoing, attention-seeking, and a little self-centred. But like the oldest and the middle child, they need to be parented in a special way. Although their attention-hogging behaviour can be anything from innocent to manipulative, it can work for you. But only if you know how to use your last-born child’s traits to your parenting advantage. Here’s advice for parenting your last born.
Tips for parenting your last born child
1. Play a fair game
Even though you might be preoccupied with your oldest child’s homework or keeping your middle child from tearing the house down, you still need to make time to include your youngest in the family affairs. You want to ensure that your youngest child feels like he or she is always an integral part of the family and not just a quick afterthought.
2. Don’t always treat them like babies
Just because your youngest kid isn’t “old enough” to do big kid stuff doesn’t mean she has to be treated like a baby. Instead of treating them like babies, youngest children need to be taught to be independent. They should know that regardless of their place in the sibling hierarchy, they are still competent, able individuals within the family dynamic.
3. Don’t let them off the hook just because they’re the youngest
Yes, he will always be your baby, but letting your youngest kid get away with not doing his chores can make it harder to discipline him when he’s older and might also cause other siblings to resent the preferential treatment he’s getting all the time. Family rules and regulations should apply to all siblings, not just the first born and middle children.
4. Be okay with saying no
Because youngest children tend to be more self-centred than their siblings, they’re also more likely to throw fits for things they want NOW. But instead of giving in to the “baby’s” demands, it’s important that you don’t give into their every demand. You should treat your youngest in the same fashion as you do with her siblings.
5. Call their bluff when the timing is right
Because youngest children are often desperate for attention, they’re likely to exaggerate facts for the sake of convenience. If your youngest child is pretending to be too sick to attend school, don’t just blatantly accept it. You need to show them that you’re not afraid to call their bluff or let them get away with manipulation.