Parenting can be the hardest yet most rewarding job out there. Most parents would say that the happiness of their children is one of their top priorities in life. But with all the bullying and anxiety present in our daily lives, how can we let go of our instinctive ways of fear-based parenting to allow our kids to flourish? Here are some things all parents need to know about toddlers to help them create a world filled with health and happiness:
Top things all parents need to know about toddlers
1. Toddlers need their parents to listen to them.
When you’re making eye contact and not interrupting them, then you’re really listening to your tot. If our kids see that we’re really interested in what they’re saying, they’ll be encouraged to communicate with us more frequently.
2. Toddlers need parents to make mistakes from time to time.
Our kids learn a lot more from our actions than they do from out words, and when we show them that we also make mistakes but can make lemonade from lemons, we’re doing them a great favour. Failing (and recovering from a failure) is a parent’s most powerful opportunities for demonstrating that failure is part of growth.
3. They need to be able to make messes and mistakes as well.
As adults, we know that we can only acquire a certain skills once we’ve failed a couple of times, and we need to allow our kids the opportunity of realising this for themselves too. When we allow our tots to learn from their own mistakes, we’re giving them the opportunity to learn more about problem-solving, something they’ll need as adults in life.
4. Toddlers need to spend time with their parents outdoors.
According to the Richard Ryan Journal of Environmental Psychology, spending time outdoors can enhance your mood and can help you focus on the task at hand. Whether you’re biking with your kid or enjoying a short hike, spending some time with them in nature is essential to their healthy development as also beneficial to the bond you share with your kids. According to the National Wildlife Federation, when kids get to spend time outdoors, they are more prone to grow lean and strong, have better attention spans, decreased aggression, and perform better in the classroom.
5. Toddlers need to be praised for what they do, not for what they are.
As humans, we have a negativity bias. We tend to cling to the bad stuff in our lives much more than the positive. And that creates an increase in negative emotions like fear and anger, which can overwhelm the other emotions such as hope, joy, and inspiration. To counteract this problem, we need to praise our kids whenever they’re experiencing something negative in their lives. When we praise our kids for being smart, their happiness levels increase. But being smart is something you ARE, not something you’re working at. Instead of praising our kids for what they do, we should praise them for the process they use to reach those goals. It’s all about noticing and commenting on their efforts and their techniques.