The “Trying Threes”: a period of parenthood defined by three-year-old children trying and testing a parent’s level of patience at every opportunity they get. In fact, most parents would agree that the “terrible twos” are so much easier than the trying threes.
Before your kiddo turned three, you had an angel in the house. Your child, who was hardly ever a real problem before, suddenly turns into a living terror. Blowing everything you thought you knew about tantrums, back-chatting, and anger outbursts out of the park.
As your toddler explores his new world, tests her boundaries, and discovers their own personality, here are some tactics you can try to help you survive the trying threes with your sanity intact:
How to make it through the trying threes
Keep it consistent
Giving in to a toddler’s outbursts should not be field tested during the trying threes. Consistency is key to success here. Which means you will have to follow through with strict discipline and teach your kid that ager outbursts are not acceptable.
Teach with love
Your toddler will test your patience. But try to exhibit love to your child regardless of how much they’re upsetting you. Most toddlers throw fits for the attention it brings. And to see what the reactions are to their outbursts. This is the time to show youth child that regardless of how unhappy you are with their behaviour, you love them unconditionally.
Experiment with discipline styles
Try using a few different discipline styles until you find one that works for you and your child. All kids are unique, so what works for one parent might be a nightmare to the next.
Keep in mind that YOU are the adult here
It’s tempting to show your worst side when your kiddo is testing you to the extremes. But you are not a child, and as such, you cannot act immature. Keep your cool and be the mature, responsible parent. Handle situations firmly but calmly. And remember that the behaviour you’re modelling will be what your child learns to do.
Every season of your child’s life should be celebrated and enjoyed thoroughly. Stages and ages come and go at the speed of light. And before you know it, your child will have phased out of the trying threes, and you’ll be dealing with new and bigger challenges. Even during their most difficult stage, children are still blessings and should be praised for all the good they bring into our lives!