You’re so tired, and you want to cry, but you can’t because you’re so tired. Days like this, when you feel like you’ve depleted all of your energy even before getting out of bed, these are the dark days of motherhood.
What happens on the dark days of motherhood
You spent last night juggling each of your three kids. Each of them determined in their unwillingness to sleep. You felt like a little metal ball in a pinball machine. Bouncing back and forth between each of the demands as you tried to get them all back to bed.
After waking up for the last time, you could feel it in your bones. Today was going to be a dark day. One of those days where everything just goes horribly south. Where everyone is in a terrible mood, and where patience is in the shortest supply ever!
One hour into the day and your kids have already tag-teamed a tantrum because they can’t have candy for breakfast. One of your kids had a conniption because you cut the sandwich into squares instead of triangles. And you’ve already witnessed one meltdown and had to dish out one timeout.
Dark days of motherhood just plain suck!
On a day like this, just getting your kids dressed take a LOT of effort. The pants are too long. The dress scratches her. The top isn’t fitting the way it’s supposed to. And all the while, you’re losing that last bit of patience you have somewhere deep inside of you. And sure, much of their behavior can be attributed to typical toddlerhood. But it seems like they’re just pulling out all the stops today.
Every request you make is met with a “no” or an “I don’t want to.” Your kids are so appalled with their breakfast menu, they decide that food looks better on the floor. For today, no smiles or laughs live in your house.
On a good day, you’d have the energy to turn the situation around with a fun game or a silly moment. But seeing that everyone in the house is in a nasty mood today, you don’t have it in you. Not today. Even coffee will turn its back on you on these days, losing any and all effects it once had. You chug it just because the clock says it’s too early for a glass of wine.
Against all better judgment, you’ll decide to try a trip to the park to try and save what’s left of the day. And on any other day, some fresh air would do you all good. But on these dark days, it’ll be a hot mess of screaming, yelling, whining, and crying. Which will also result in a prompt end to the outing.
The cure for the dark days of motherhood
There is no cure for these dark days of motherhood, except for it to end. All of us have these dark days from time to time. And these are the days that nobody warns you about. Days when your offspring will challenge and test the limits at every opportunity with endless fighting and nonstop struggle. Days you wish would just end already so that you can forget they ever happened. At the end of the day, all you can do is sit back and breathe a sigh of relief. Motherhood is not perfect, but it is always worth it.