Secrets to keep from your kids: Sometimes, they need to be kept in the dark

Secrets to keep from your kids: Sometimes, they need to be kept in the dark

Sometimes, there are some necessary secrets to keep from your kids. It’s an unfortunate necessity of life you’ll have to accept when you become a parent. Yes, you have to be open with them, because essentially, that’s how they learn and grow. But some things are just better left unsaid. Here’s what kind of secrets you need to keep from them.


Secrets to keep from your kids at all costs

Your deep love for junk food

Often times, a kid’s eating habits are just a reflection of those of his or her parents. But even the best parents sometimes like to break open a bag of greasy crisps and chow down once in a while. But, you really need to teach your kids the importance of a healthy diet. So for now, stash the cookies on the top shelf.


That they won’t die if they don’t eat all of their veggies

This is one of the secrets to keep from your kids, but you also don’t need to tell them that something bad is about to happen if they don’t finish their serving of broccoli. Don’t scare them because that’s the last thing you want to do. It’s important to teach them from a young age that they need to follow a balanced diet.


How much it hurt to give birth

You really don’t want your kid to feel guilty for causing you endless amounts of pain just by arriving in this world. In the end, all the pain was worth it, right?


That you and your partner just had a fight

Venting to your kids about the issues you and your partner have is NEVER okay. Fights are a fact of life, and sure your kids are allowed to know about them, but they need to see that you’re able to resolve conflict healthily. By demonstrating this to them, you’re teaching them to deal with their own emotions and conflicts.


How much you hate doing housework

Yeah, it sucks to clean and cook and keep the house running all day, every day, but your kids don’t need to know the details on the topic. Your job is to teach your kids about responsibility. They can learn all about the misery of doing it once they start doing those chores on their own one day.


That you’re basically always worried about them

When your kid was born, so was the constant fear that something is going to happen to them. You don’t ever need to let your kids know that you’re paranoid about their health and safety though. You don’t want those feelings rubbing off on them. It’s just not healthy.


How much you hate yelling at them

Yelling at your kids when they’ve done something wrong and then seeing them cry is a bad feeling. It sucks. But you need to maintain authority with them and teach them the difference between right and wrong. This is your secret to keep. When they’ve got their own kids one day, you can cry about this bitter-sweet point together.


How happy their bedtime sometimes makes you

Putting your kid to bed isn’t always about how tired they are, but more about how tired they’re making everyone else in the house. So when they finally fall asleep at the end of the day, it’s your time to relax and catch up with your own life. Even though you’re secretly looking forward to those few hours of alone time after your kids go to bed, don’t let them in on the secret. It would break their little hearts.

By Seldean Smith

Seldean is a full-time single mom and avid contributor to the Kiddles website. Her hobbies include discovering awesome new places and spaces for kids and writing content that resonates with the hearts of other parents.

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