More often than not, we’re taught to live our lives our way and to do whatever feels good at the moment. But the problem with this attitude, where fatherhood is concerned, is that it has never worked. There are a lot of sacrifices dads make to become successful fathers and raise responsible kids in a happy home environment. Things like sleep, convenience and his previously active social life are some of the things men sacrifice when they become dads. Let’s take a look at what they give up in the name of fatherhood.
The sacrifices dads make
Being a dad doesn’t come cheap. The kids always need new clothes and diapers. School fees have to be paid on time. And yes, the family eventually needs a larger car. All of these things outstrip a dad’s wants for the latest gadgets. But these are all part of the sacrifices dads make to provide their families with the best quality of life.
Fatherhood demands a massive time commitment if it is to be done right. There will be days where after a long day at the office dad still sits down to help the kids with homework. After midnight, he collapses into bed ending the day off without doing a single thing for himself. Perhaps he might long for the days where he could relax at night with his wife or even just head out for dinner and a few beers. But again, he considers the value of his time investment. And evening out with the boys is great, but helping kids grasp their school work is much more important and will serve them all their lives.
Most dads miss the proficiency they lost at a hobby after they have kids. In their pre-fathering days, they loved playing a round of golf, spending time in the wood shop or just sitting in the blind waiting to shoot at the target. Things get even harder to deal with when his friends are all still doing the hobbies he loved to do before he became a dad. Obviously fathers don’t have to let go and forget about their hobbies, but the intensity and frequency of their passion decrease as they invest more and more into fatherhood.
When guys are single and kid-free, they have the freedom to go out when they want and do anything they want. They have the freedom to move to an exotic location and settle for a job that doesn’t necessarily bring home the biggest chunk of bacon. But dads are more likely to stay in their safety zones where they’re sure they can afford to keep their kids in school. Fathers don’t have the luxury of freely moving around or changing their minds on a whim once they’re responsible for protecting and providing for their families.