Being pregnant can be a lovely experience. There’s the maternity shoot, the idea of reading and singing to your baby while he’s still in the womb. Then there’s the birth of your baby. Which usually goes in the complete opposite direction of what you might have envisioned, but it’s still a humbling experience. But there’s also permission for the new mom.
As soon as you’re out of the hospital, the world seems to have crazy high expectations of you. Of your baby, and of your life as a new mom. In the rat race of trying to keep up with the Jones’, a lot of moms never really accept motherhood into their lives. They look like they’re living it, but they never really feel it.
Which is why you need to read these permission slips. Stipulating the things that you are permitted to do, for as long as you need, until you’ve settled into motherhood and the hot mess that comes along with it:
Permission for the new mom
1. It’s okay to cry.
Some new moms see tears as a source of shame, but your feelings during the first few weeks of your baby’s life are REAL, and they need to be expressed. Once you get those tears out of your system, you’ll feel much lighter, so go ahead and cry if you feel like it.
2. Its okay to ask for help.
No man is an island, so you shouldn’t attempt to be one during those first few weeks at home with your baby. If someone offers, take that freezer meal, let them watch your baby while you take a shower, and dammit allow them to help you clean. Don’t be afraid to accept the help of others because it takes a community to raise a happy, healthy baby.
3. Its okay to rest.
You have to heal after giving birth, so make sure you take some time out for sleeping. The only way you can take care of your baby is if you’re relaxed and well-rested, so don’t skimp on sleeping because you have an innate need to clean the house, it can really wait for another day.
4. Its okay to not know what the heck you’re doing.
You’ll never understand how much you rely on feeling competent until you feel utterly incompetent in the presence of a new little life. You just need to breathe and keep in mind that its totally okay to not know what you’re doing. This is your first time around the block, and you’ll get there in due time.