Being a parent…no wait, a mom is hard AF. Seriously. Before you become a mom, you literally have no clue what you’re lining yourself up for. And you probably also didn’t know about the world of parenting double standards.
The reality of parenting double standards
Men get praised for just being dads. They get praised for doing things that moms do EVERY SINGLE DAY. Dads get praised for looking like they’re interested in their kids. They get praised for the lousiest of attempts at being parents.
Dads receive praise for existing. We worship them and deem them desirable just for being dads. Even though parenting is hard work, it shouldn’t be gender-bias. But let’s hold everyone up to the same standard.
You might relate this: “I can’t believe that [insert dad’s name here] dropped his kids at school. He’s amazing!”
Doing a ”woman’s” work
As moms, we have to cook, clean, change diapers, kiss boo-boos, wipe away tears, and be great at every one of those things. If a man takes over the routine of a woman, he’s the star of the show. End of story.
Taking the kids somewhere
The doctors office. School drop-offs. The local family restaurant. A trip to the grocery store.. Even the park. Dads receive praise for their noble bravery whenever they take the kids out with them. Althouh it’s awesome, why are we treating them like royalty for these daily acts?
Attending school meetings
People tend to seem shocked at the sight of spotting an “involved father.” Seeing dads at a school event or meeting is something WAY out of the ordinary. While moms, well they kind of have no other option. We have to show up every time. Without fail.
We’re betting that most folks assume dads that stay home with their kids (a.k.a the stay-at-home dad myth) or work from home are equal to unicorns. Moms that stay at home with their kids are “lazy” or uninterested in ‘real’ careers.
While there’s nothing wrong with praising a worthy dad, isn’t it about time we all stopped focusing on praising ALL kinds of parents. Here’s to you, mom, the one reading this post, looking for some kind of validation! Pour yourself a glass of wine and pat yourself on the back. You’ve worked hard for this, and you deserve some praise for all your worthy efforts! Never let parenting double standards put you down!