They say you get married, have kids, and live happily ever after. But we ALL know that’s not true. Having kids can be one of the biggest stressors in a marriage. Essentially, it can really break your marriage if you’re not careful. But it doesn’t have to be. Here’s how to make your marriage work after kids.
How to make your marriage work after kids
Some folks say that a Happy Wife equals a Happy Life, but we beg to differ. It’s when both parties are satisfied that a happy life actually exists.
As a couple, the relationship that you and your spouse have is essential for a healthy, happy, balanced family life. We are, after all, at the center of our family’s foundation, which means that our bond has to be as strong as possible if we want our family to flourish.
One of the key elements that care about the relationship between you and your spouse is COMMUNICATION. Communicating with each other about everything and everything helps you stay close to each other, even after adding little humans to your life.
Why date nights should always be a thing
There’s a lot of articles on the web, books, and even seminars out there that highlight the importance of date nights for husband and wife duos. There’s also a good reason for that…THEY KEEP THE ROMANCE ALIVE.
If at all possible, you should plan on doing date nights at least once a month.
This isn’t always possible. But there’s always the idea of improvising. Having a date night in the house as soon as the kids go to bed.
The truth is that it’s not always just that easy. Between work, family, and social commitments, there’s hardly enough time to squeeze in half an hours’ worth of reading time, let alone carve out a chunk of time to spend with your significant other.
Date nights don’t have to mean getting a babysitter and going out to the movies. It can be something the two of you do together at home, such as screen-free nights, once a week. You just have to have the will and motivation to care out time for focusing purely on each other.
Relationships are work, and they’ll always be. And while many folks are happy to work on their fitness and career goals, they seldom give their relationship the same time and attention, which is exactly when things tend to go south, pretty darn fast too.
Because our lives are so busy and so full, if we don’t make time to take care of our relationships, feelings of being taken for granted can easily come up, which spells the death knell for any relationship.
Understanding the commitment
Essentially a good relationship between a wife and a husband is almost like comparing it to a new car.
You’re going to want to ensure that your vehicle has sufficient oil and water every time you swing that ignition unless of course, you want it to conk up on the highway.
If it’s not making you happy, what’s the point?
If your relationship isn’t serving you, isn’t enriching your life, and making you love life every single day, then what’s the point?
To help keep the romance alive through small everyday things, you can focus on finding moments throughout the day in which you can be silly together.
As a couple, sit down and commit to the following:
- Being massive fans of public displays of affection (no inappropriate behavior though)
- Never put each other down in front of the kids or our friends
- Do weekly or monthly date nights
- Communicate regularly and effectively
- Make great memories together with the kids
- Compromise for each other
- Encourage each other
- Be best friends, always
- Seek the fun in every situation
- Travel together
- Fight it out when the situation calls for it
- Forgive, and forget, and then move on, together.