How to (really) make mom friends as an introvert SAHM

How to (really) make mom friends as an introvert SAHM

Have you ever tried to make mom friends as an introvert? It’s something that’s very challenging, especially if you’re an introverted mom. But there are a lot of tricks for navigating the world of mom friends and successfully finding ones that resonate with you. Here are some golden nuggets of wisdom:

 

Tips to make mom friends as an intorvert

You don’t need to make mom friends everywhere you go

Some moms are fine with one or two good friends, but for introverts, anything more than two feels way too intense. Some moms crave as many mom friends as possible and choose to interact with those friends one-on-one. Remember that it can feel way to overwhelming to nurture too many deep relationships when you’re pouring all of your energy into your kids. And that’s okay too.

 

All playdates aren’t required to be attended

Listen Susan, two or three playdates per day for your little one is just WAY too much. Most of us are spent after just one playdate, and so are our kids. Also, playdates every single day are ridiculous too. You need at least a day or two in between each of them to recover.

 

Make friends that make you feel happy and understand your need to be alone sometimes

Introverts can become more panicky once they have kids, especially about who they allow into their lives and the lives of their kids. Their early days of motherhood are filled with doubts and stress, and that’s when they need people that lift them up and empower them. They also need friends that understand their need for quiet at times, who won’t judge them when they need to retreat and disconnect.

 

It IS possible to balance needs when you’re an introvert, and your kid loves people

Your kids will probably want to spend more time with people than what you’re able to commit to. You know they need companionship for others their age and denying them that pleasure sounds selfish. But your needs are just as important. If your kid wants four playdates a week but you only want one, compromise and settle for two.

 

Virtual friends are real friends too

Some of the closest mom friendships live in cyberspace. Online, you can connect with moms that share your interests. Although some folks don’t see these as genuine friendships, this isn’t the case at all. For introverts, communicating online is often much easier than it is in real life.

By Seldean Smith

Seldean is a full-time single mom and avid contributor to the Kiddles website. Her hobbies include discovering awesome new places and spaces for kids and writing content that resonates with the hearts of other parents.

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