Here’s what you teach your kids subconsciously

Here’s what you teach your kids subconsciously

We already know that kids are little sponges, soaking up values and behaviours they are exposed to on a daily basis. If you’re curious about what you teach your kids subconsciously, without ever intending to do so, here’s the scoop:


Things you probably teach your kids subconsciously

How to treat underprivileged people

It’s easy to be polite and respectful when you’re in the “right” kind of company, but what really shows character is the way in which you treat those that don’t have anything to offer you. When we interact with cleaners, hawkers, and even beggars, our kids watch us. They pick up on our tone of voice. And at the end of the day, the way you speak becomes an acceptable way for them to speak to others.



Have you ever told a little white lie to your kid’s teacher to get them out of an activity? It’s really tempting to invent a sudden cold when all you want is a head start to your long weekend. But our kids see us. They closely watch our behaviour and then add a tick to the ‘hypocritical’ column on their little checklists.


That learning never ends

Your kids have watched the adults in their lives learn to play musical instruments, dance, do computer coding and even flying drones. Although kids learn in the classroom, they learn from us that the world is full of opportunities to learn and grow. As you master new skills, you’re showing your kids that one is never too old to learn a new trick. It’s one of the top things you teach your kids subconsciously, but it is also one of the most important.



This one is especially true for parents of girls.  When you take care of your body, eat well, exercise, and don’t moan about being fat or ugly, you’re promoting self-esteem and helping them develop self-care skills. They’re always watching and always learning.


Working and playing as a team

No offence, but kids that come from privileged homes are often the most useless and impractical humans out there. Being waited on does not build resourcefulness. But doing stuff as a family, now that makes sense. When your kids learn to volunteer and help out around the home from a young age, they’ll mature into responsible adults that know what they bring to the table one day. Also, they’ll thank you for these valuable skills when they’re old enough to understand the impact it has on the world.

By Seldean Smith

Seldean is a full-time single mom and avid contributor to the Kiddles website. Her hobbies include discovering awesome new places and spaces for kids and writing content that resonates with the hearts of other parents.

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