Even before your grandchild is born, it’s wise to get clued up on the basics for grandparents-to-be. After all, your career begins long before that bundle of joy enters the world up top. All of your actions and reactions matter from the day you get the news. Here are some tips that will help things go smoothly.
Tips for grandparents-to-be
Always smile when you get the news
When your daughter-in-law announces the good news, you HAVE to act pleased even if you have some concerns. Grandparents-to-be should also double check with the couple whether or not they’re allowed to share the news with family and friends.
As a grandmother, you might not be allowed in the delivery room. Perhaps the new parents don’t even want to allow visitors in the hospital. Regardless of what your feelings about their choice are, don’t try and go against them. The future relationship you’ll have with your child and grandchild might very well depend on whether or not you’re supportive of their decision.
Treat the mom-to-be right
Expectant moms can be super focused on what’s happening to them during pregnancy, physically and emotionally. If your daughter or daughter-in-law seems uninterested in you and your life, remember that’s she’s just acting on her maternal drive. She’ll regain her interest in the wider world once she gives birth.
Don’t buy everything you see
It’s always fun to buy baby stuff, but the whole thing also has a few pitfalls. If you feel like you’re burning to buy baby gear, start with a few minor things and see how the parents-to-be react. Some expectant parents welcome and all contributions. Others feel like the choice of clothing and equipment is something they have to do by themselves. Anyway, there will be a baby shower where you can give as many gifts as you like. So don’t overdo it right from the start.
Offer to help, but don’t be a pain in the neck
This is especially important to keep in mind at the end of the pregnancy and right after the baby’s birth. New parents need some help, but they don’t want you overdoing it. By insisting on helping all the time, you’re sending a message to the new parents that they can’t adequately take care of their own needs.
Be ready to share
In most families, there are (or three or four) sets of grandparents. If you haven’t exactly mingled with the other grandparents-to-be, now is the perfect time to catch up. You’ll need to coordinate visits, which means a clear line of communication with the other grandparents is essential here.