In a recent article, we talked about all the things you need to consider before adopting. Although the article was great, we didn’t mention all the details. That said, here are some things you also need to consider in the pre-adoption stages.
Make sure you plan for additional expenses
Most agencies detail the fees so that you have an idea of what the adoption process costs. But there are expenses involved in caring for children that aren’t listed. If you’re allowed to have visits with the child, you need to plan for travel costs. Kids with medical conditions won’t only need the appointment and hospital fees, but costs for food and transportation during lengthy medical appointments will also need to be covered. If your adoptive child struggles to adjust, you’ll need to take him or her to see a therapist.
Attachment and adjustment are the most important things
In the pre-adoption phase, it’s important to think about how you’ll establish a connection with your adoptive child and how you’ll help them adjust to their new life. The adoptive child needs to form a bond with you, and it can be problematic when healthy attachment doesn’t occur.
Be prepared to have an open dialogue about adoption
You can’t predict how a child will react before they are adopted or after placement takes place. You also don’t know how they’ll deal with the idea of being adopted as they mature. Big feelings and big questions will arise. And that’s why it’s important to keep the dialogue open, so your kid knows it’s okay to share their emotions with you.
Taking care of yourself is crucial to the success of the process
You might not have given birth to a baby, but those first days, weeks, and moths will still be challenging. You might get caught up in years of intensive parenting. And to meet the needs of your child, you need to ensure your basic needs are met. You might still lose sleep and have to sacrifice your wants over what’s right for your child, but always know where your limits are and honour them.
Again, the most important person in the process is the child
This one is so important that we’re mentioning it twice over two articles. Keeping this in mind will ensure that everything we’ve mentioned falls into place. The child is the most important character in this new story that you’re writing as a family. Never forget that. Always keep the child’s best interests at heart.