Although they might seem innocent, there are some comments that you should never say to an autism parent. Here are the phrases that can strike a deep nerve…
What NOT to say to an autism parent
It’s normal for her age
An autism parent has to deal with a plethora of issues every day with their kids. It ranges from refusal to eat certain foods to dealing with meltdowns caused by the tags of T-shirts. Some autistic behaviours mimic those we see as “normal” in the parenting journey, but with autism, these problems are much more pronounced. And the autism parent is the only one that has to deal with the same struggles day in and day out.
It must be very hard
Dealing with and managing autism is no walk in the park, so don’t bring up the subject. In most cases, these parents don’t want your sympathy. They need to know that you’ll be there for them (and their kids) when they need you most. Sometimes they need a shoulder to cry on, but they definitely don’t need your sympathy.
I understand because I know someone with autism
If you’re not an autism parent, you have no idea of just how real the struggle is. You don’t understand, and you never will. Also, autism doesn’t look the same from one person to another. If you know someone with autism, you know just one person with autism. And all of them are unique in everything from their learning patterns to their behaviour.
Autism is caused by vaccines
There have been scores of parents that chose not to have their kids vaccinated due to the BS link between vaccinations and autism. There is, in fact, no real link between the development of autism and vaccines.
Are you sure it’s autism?
Kids that have been diagnosed with autism have been through a very comprehensive evaluation, which includes paperwork from parents, teachers, and specialists. They’re also observed, put through play-based assessments and more. Having your kid diagnosed with autism isn’t something that comes easily, and it’s not something anyone wishes for their kids. If they tell you it’s autism, you can be sure that they are sure it’s definitely autism.
It’s just an excuse for bad behaviour
Here’s the deal: autism is a clinically diagnosed disorder. Yes, the disorder does go hand in hand with negative behaviours like aggression and meltdowns, but autism is not a “better” word to disguise bad behaviour.