Although they’re not hot topics, dad-to-be fears are very real, and they need to be addressed. Most dads-in-the making experience anxiety over their impending fatherhood. They worry about money, relationships, upheaval in life and their own adequacy and preparation to be dads. Here are some of the most common issues and how to address them.
Common dad-to-be fears
Will I be a good dad
This is one of the most common dad-to-be fears. Men often ponder the idea of whether or not they’ll be good fathers or if they’re even ready for fatherhood. The role requires personal sacrifice, the development of wisdom and the task of moulding a tiny human into a responsible adult.
But here’s the secret: It’s a choice you get to make. If you’re ready to tune into your kid, learn all you can about fatherhood and stick to the key principles of fathering, you’ll be just fine.
Can we really afford this baby?
Babies cost a LOT. It’s pretty evident when you consider the price of disposable diapers. These costs will be new to you and your partner. But the good news is that budgeting is your best friend here. Sure, you’ll need to sacrifice a few luxury items, but when sacrifices are made to benefit your kid, it becomes much easier to give those things up for the greater good.
What if my wife loves the baby more than she loves me?
You’re going to see quite a few changes in your relationship as you go from being a duo to a small little family. Your wife won’t be just your playmate anymore; she’ll be the mom of your kid. She will love both of you. But you have to understand that motherhood will consume most of her attention, her body, and her energy.
Having a baby will probably kill my sex life
Chances are you’ve already experienced a change in your sex life throughout your wife’s pregnancy. When the baby is born and during the initial newborn months, don’t count on being intimate as often as you used to be. Your partner’s energy levels will be non-existent, and she won’t be as interested in sex as she was before the baby was born. But eventually, things will get better. You might miss the days when you had sex every other night, but you’ll gain a new level of emotional and physical intimacy with each other.
What if my partner becomes just a mom instead of being my lover?
As mentioned before, your partner’s maternal instinct will see things changing, but it’s a change that should be for the better. During this time of change, effective communication is the key to success and a lasting relationship between the two of you, both new parents.