Commandments of shopping with kids

We live in a rat-race world where time is our most precious commodity. Many times, we’re forced to spend the little time we have with our kids on a trip to the shops. We have no other choice than to try and make great memories on the run. That said, there are a few commandments of shopping with kids that will make the time spent together more memorable.   Here’s how to make shopping bearable for you and your kids What you want to do is to engage with your kids to create a bonding experience with every opportunity that arises. We have so many opportunities for teaching our kids self-control and the ability to cope in confined spaces when we’re out shopping. We also have loads of time to chat to our kids while we’re scanning the aisles.   Here are the basic commandments of shopping with kids Don’t tackle rush hour shopping If it’s after 5 pm, it’s just not a good idea to go shopping with the kids. End of story. The same thing applies for weekend shopping and …
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Co-parenting with a toxic ex

Here’s the sad reality: co-parenting with a toxic ex is damn near impossible. Even if you’re super flexible or firm. Regardless of how hard you try, all your attempts to “be the bigger person” will essentially fail. Psychos and co-parenting just don’t fit together. And the reason for that is quite simple. Co-parenting requires shared effort and intent.   Why co-parenting with a toxic ex will never work When you consider the word “co” it translates to together, mutual, and in common. Toxic people don’t have the same goals as you. They can’t and don’t put their kid’s best interest before their own. Trying to co-parent with a toxic ex is like attempting to row a boat with just one oar. Even if you try your best, your boat will still go in circles, stopping only to sink eventually.   In the interest of your kid(s), it’s best to give them a relationship with both biological parents. But in this case, it isn’t a matter of co-parenting anymore, but rather Parallel…
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Parenting hacks for parents of twins

If you’ve been blessed with two babies at the same time, you’re super lucky. But you’re also probably super tired and in desperate need of parenting hacks for parents of twins. We know all too well that the struggle is very, very real. People think parenting one kid is hard work. More than one can mean the difference between bliss and going bonkers if you don’t use shortcuts.   What are some of the bets parenting hacks for parents of twins? Tell your twins apart by their belly buttons or colour-coded wristbands. All babies have differently shaped navels, almost like fingerprints. Since not all umbilical cords are cut and heal the same way, they all look different. Don’t feel bad about not being able to tell them apart. If you don’t have access to their belly buttons, deck them out with colour-coded wristbands.   Don’t go to the shops with two babies at the same time. You’ve probably heard about how difficult it can be to go shopping with one baby. So don’t …
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Tips for asking questions kids want to answer

There are questions we ask our kids which never get answered). And then there are the right questions. The fact of the matter is that there’s a magic way for asking questions kids want to answer. By asking questions, you can help your kids realise what they are feeling. Based on the type of questions you ask, you can even help boost your child’s emotional IQ.   Tips for asking questions kids want to answer You always want to assume everything your kid says is true.  This seems like a weird one, but kids have their version of a story, and if you call them on the truth too early they may feel you aren’t listening or taking sides. For example:  If your son is upset because his sister hit him, instead of responding with: “I saw YOU hit her first.” Try “Can you tell me a little more about what started the argument?”   The truth will eventually come out, but it’s more important to keep your son talking and calm him down so he can appeal to his logical…
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How and why to deal with sibling rivalry

Sibling rivalry seems to be a topic as old as time itself, yet so many parents still battle with it. What is it, why does it happen, and can we stop it? Read on to find out how to deal with sibling rivalry in a way that won’t cause chaos in your family.   What is sibling rivalry? As parents, we all want our kids to get along great. But there will be disagreements between siblings, it's unavoidable. Some kids fight over toys, and others simply annoy the living crap out of each other. It’s a natural part of growing up, and it happens in all homes.   Why and how to deal with sibling rivalry Although it cannot be avoided, there are ways in which we can deal with sibling rivalry. Follow these tips to help ensure a non-volatile situation in your home Allow older kids to help care for younger kids If your eldest child helps feed the baby or even just soothes them when they’re crying, it may help strengthen the relationship between siblings. Encourage yo…
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Adoption: A hopeful parent’s crash course

Aside Every year on the 15th of November, we celebrate World Adoption Day. The world spends the day in order to raise adoption awareness and celebrate families everywhere. But what exactly do families have to go through in order to adopt a child? Read our crash course in adopting a child legally in South Africa.   Adopting a child legally in South Africa The National Adoption Coalition of South Africa (NACSA) and its umbrella initiative, AddOption, set the guidelines for adopting a child legally in South Africa. The group also strives to ensure that all adoptions in South Africa are done according to the legislation.   Katinka Pieterse, of NACSA, says: “Ensuring that adoptions take place in a legally compliant manner is crucial in protecting the rights of the child, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents. A key focus of NACSA has been on creating positive awareness for the option of adoption and making it accessible to all South Africans. Adoptions hav…
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Awesome parenting advice for dads

The internet is flooded with parenting advice for moms, but what about the dads? Don’t they deserve some special attention too? In this post, we’ll be delivering some of our most practical parenting advice for dads. No need to thank us. We’re nice like that.   Parenting advice for dads – tips, tricks, and general info about fatherhood When your partner gets pregnant, you’ll probably be the second person to know. She’ll tell her mom or her BFF before she breaks the news to you. Nine months before a baby is born, a dad is born. Your job started on the day your partner got a positive pregnancy test result. When making a bottle, it’s important to stir, not shake, the milk. Sunlight is an awesome aid to your rescue should you ever get poop stains on your clothes. Don’t freak out, but newborns don’t blink. Your wife or partner really doesn’t want to have sex for at least four weeks after the birth of your baby. Don’t even attempt it. Cargo shorts are p…
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How you CAN make your marriage work after kids

They say you get married, have kids, and live happily ever after. But we ALL know that’s not true. Having kids can be one of the biggest stressors in a marriage. Essentially, it can really break your marriage if you’re not careful. But it doesn’t have to be. Here’s how to make your marriage work after kids.   How to make your marriage work after kids Some folks say that a Happy Wife equals a Happy Life, but we beg to differ. It’s when both parties are satisfied that a happy life actually exists. As a couple, the relationship that you and your spouse have is essential for a healthy, happy, balanced family life. We are, after all, at the center of our family’s foundation, which means that our bond has to be as strong as possible if we want our family to flourish. One of the key elements that care about the relationship between you and your spouse is COMMUNICATION. Communicating with each other about everything and everything helps you stay close to each other, eve…
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Five secrets all single dads share

Being a single dad might be one of the hardest jobs on the face of this earth, but it can also be the most rewarding. Take a little advice from others who have stood in your shoes before, and learn what it takes to be a great single dad. Here’s a roundup of the best-kept secrets all single dads share.   Secrets all single dads share They have flexible work schedules Being a single dad with the world’s responsibilities at the office will be way too much to juggle. This is why all successful single dads work with their bosses in order to create a flexible work schedule. This helps them spend more time with their kids   They stay calm during life’s storms The schedule of a single dad can be pretty demanding, and it’s enough to test anybody’s nerves. But what all single dads have in common is this: they stay calm in front of their kids. They find a mechanism for stress relief, such as chatting with friends and family. They make it their priority to stay as calm…
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Weird discipline rules that actually work!

As a parent, you’ll make a lot of weird rules throughout your parenting journey. They’ll range from irrational (“If I ever see you wearing those clothes and playing in the mud, I’ll cut them up into a thousand pieces!”) to going against all instinct (“You’re not allowed to look at or talk to your sister!”). But sometimes, you’ll come across an idea that actually sticks. And you’ll use it time and again until you’ve exhausted its powers completely. Here are some wonderful yet totally weird discipline rules you can give a shot in your home! 1. I’m in here because I’m working on my chores and you can’t be in here unless you’re working too. What it does: It gets your kid to stop irritating the living crap out of you while you’re trying to get your chores done. How it works: Since your kids really want to be with you, they’ll start pulling their weight as far as chores are concerned. 2. I’m off for the night at 8 p.m. What it does: It helps reinforce the idea of a regular be…
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