Up to 85% of kids over the age of 20 move back home at one stage or another, which kind of makes us think we’re dealing with Generation B, the Boomerang kids. Here are some tips on how to see your kids off, take them back in, and move them out again:
How to handle boomerang kids
Before your kids take off for university, teach them the three B’s. These are lessons in banking, budgeting, and bill paying. It’s easy to get preoccupied with school performance and forget about preparing your kid for what comes after school. But this is essential if you want them to succeed out there in the real world.
If your kids are boomerang kids and they do return home after initially leaving the nest, it’s important to consider what their presence will mean for your household. How will they contribute to the home? Will you be supporting them financially? Perhaps you might need to set up a written agreement that you both sign, just to ensure everything is crystal clear.
When your kids are done with school, they’re not adults yet. In fact, between the ages of 18 and 23, they’re entering the final and also the most difficult stage of adolescence, which is the trial stage for independence. Sometimes they will need to come home and regroup, and you have to keep this in mind when dealing with boomerang kids.
Don’t suffer the consequences of their mistakes
Some moms keep making repeat trips to school and back to deliver all the things their kids forgot at home. Their kids never develop a sense of responsibility because, in part, their parents never let them suffer the consequences of their forgetfulness. It’s okay t want to help your kids get back on their feet, but letting them live rent-free without responsibilities is not. You need to show your kids that you won’t be suffering the consequences of their mistakes or else the pattern will never stop.
Don’t be a bank
This can be a tough one, but try your utmost best not to loan your boomerang kid money. If you loan them money that they won’t be able to replay, you might be straining the relationship you have with your child. You might be willing to help your child out in a situation of financial strain, but you could also be putting yourself on the hook for much greater problems.