An estimated 60 to 80 percent of new moms feel like the first few days (or weeks) of their baby’s life is the best of times. Yet it’s also the worst of times. Baby blues appear – well out of the blue. And they bring on unexpected sadness, bouts of uncontrollable crying, restlessness, and even anxiety. But why do so many women suffer from baby blues? Isn’t having a baby supposed to make you feel happy?
The details on baby blues
If you take a step back for a moment, it’s easy to understand why this happens. There’s a change in your body. There are rapid changes in your hormones. The delivery of your baby was physically debilitating. And then there was the homecoming, which was exhausting, to say the least. Now everything is being compounded by round-the-clock demands of a newborn.
Perhaps you feel disappointed about the way labor went versus the idea you had planned out in your head. You might be feeling guilty about your reaction to your new baby. Perhaps you have issues with breastfeeding. You might feel unhappy about the way you look, plus there’s so much stress on the relationship you have with your partner.
The truth is that the list of challenges to confront is overwhelming at times, which is exactly why you might be feeling down, and it’s perfectly fine to feel that way.
Over the next couple of weeks, the baby blues will fade. You will ease into life again. Everything will work out fine at the end, and your new life? You’re going to love it! In the meantime, here’s some advice on how to get out of that postpartum slump STAT.
How to deal with baby blues
1. Lower your expectations
In a few weeks from now, you’ll have eased into your role as a mom, and those feelings of inadequacy and being overwhelmed all the time would have faded, so don’t stress about it too much. There’s just NO SUCH THING as a perfect parent, so stop trying to reach that goal.
2. No man is an island
Being left alone with a crying newborn, a pile of laundry, cooking that has to be done, and cleaning that seems like it might be the death of you is seriously depressing, so get some help onboard. Whether it’s your bestie, your sister, your partner, your mom, or even your midwife, just speak up and ask for the help you know you desperately need.
3. Dress up for a change
We know those yoga pants feel super comfortable, but here’s a secret: once you look better, you’ll start feeling better too. Do yourself a favor and hit the shower, grab the blow-dryer, and pretty yourself up. Trade in those stained sweaters for a fresh blouse and consider applying some BB cream and a bit of mascara. You’ll feel better in no time!