In most cases, having twins calls for a membership to the local wine club. As if having to deal with one meltdown isn’t enough, when it comes to twin tantrums, everything just seems to go to hell. Here’s a little advice on how you can try to better manage these emotional meltdowns if you’re dealing with two little humans at the same time.
Tips to deal with twin tantrums
Just walk away mama
Reasoning with kids in the midst of a tantrum is futile because kids have no idea what you’re saying when they’re throwing a fit. Twin tantrums are worse, so trying to talk them into a state of calmness will do nothing but waste your time. Your best option is to let the twins know that you’ll give them some time to cool off. This way, they’ll learn that their behaviour doesn’t score them the attention they are looking for. Also, by walking away, you’re giving yourself time to regroup before you lose it altogether.
Pull out your bag of tricks
It’s much easier to effectively deal with twin tantrums when you’re at home. But that’s the thing with tantrums. They tend to go down in public spaces way more frequently than they do back home. And when these wonderful serenades happen in public, it feels like you want to be swallowed up by the earth. That’s why you should always have a little surprise in your bag. Whether it’s a little car or a book, pull it out before the onlookers’ stares go any further than they should.
Try, just try, to stay as calm as possible
This is super hard to do, but talking in your calmest voice is always key when it comes to dealing with any kind of tantrum. The twin type too. As soon as you tense up, the kids notice it, and things are prone to escalate. Kids throw tantrums to win attention, regardless of whether it’s negative or positive. Remember that you’re not just staying calm for the sake of your kids, but you’re doing it for yourself too.
Throw in some cuddles
Tell your kids that you’re about to hug them as soon as you see a tantrum boiling up to the surface. The chances of them stopping their serenade and hugging you back are much higher than the chances of the tantrum persisting are. In most twin tantrums, the show is flared by the other twin, a lack of attention, or a lack of patience, so this trick really works.